See what I mean? Beautiful. We’ll go through the lyrics in a second, but the animation, using the butterflies as a visual metaphor for thoughts that flutter in and out of your mind, holding them, observing them and then letting them go was a stroke of genius.
An easy way to visualize mindfulness is though a simple exercise for children: you can demonstrate a flurry of emotion by shaking up a bottle of water with some glitter, and recognize how unclear and chaotic the water becomes. Once you leave it to settle down, however, the glitter rests at the bottom and you can see right through once again. That’s why meditation encourages you to be still and observe your own breath, so you can experience calm and be truly in the moment.
The important thing to realize about mindfulness is that it’s a learned skill, and like any skill it takes practice. I don’t claim to be an expert, just a Steven Universe fanboy who loves with Rebecca Sugar and her team are doing.
“And, oh, you’re losing sight, you’re losing touch \ All these little things seem to matter so much \ That they confuse you \ That I might lose you.”
To take a moment and find yourself
Take a moment and ask yourself
If this is how we fall apart
But it’s not, but it’s not, but it’s not, but it’s not, but it’s not
It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay
You’ve got nothing, got nothing, got nothing, got nothing to fear
I’m here, I’m here, I’m here.”
The key is to take a moment. When we realize we’re getting upset, it’s important to take a step back and look inside to ask ourselves what is really bothering us in that moment. Often we’re so far removed from the situation, it can seem silly that it’s still affecting us. “Little things” as mentioned in the song, mixed up social cues to use the example of someone with social anxiety, so often get blown out of proportion in our own minds to the point where they cause anxiety and grief. Even when we actually do something wrong, like Connie did in attacking her classmate, trying to push those thoughts away or hide them from others in the fear of being judged only make them more powerful.
In the song we see Connie’s fear materialize as a large butterfly in which she plays the incident out over and over in her head. The important thing to realize is that, while we of course need to take responsibility for our actions, thoughts are simply that – just thoughts. Opinions in the moment. Rather than let thoughts grow and dominate our psyche, mindfulness teaches that you can observe them, recognize their significance in that moment, and then simply, like the butterflies, let them go. With a clearer head, we can then make smarter decisions about how to handle life situations and make amends.
Whether as an individual or a couple, negativity and small mistakes can often lead us to think the worst, that life, or a relationship, will fall apart. When we stop and take that moment, however, we often realize how silly those thoughts were, and remember our confidence and the love of our friends, family or significant others. “It’s okay, you’ve got nothing to fear, I’m here” is a reminder that when we’re honest with ourselves and those around us, things tend to turn out for the best.